Some INFJ Thoughts on ENTPs

Some INFJ Thoughts on ENTPs | marissabaker.wordpress.comI suspect that, much like you’re not supposed to have favorite relatives, you’re not supposed to have favorite personality types. One of the core tenets of type-theory is that no type is better than another. And yet … I do have some favorites. ENFJ, ENTJ, INFJ, INTJ, INTP, ISTP, ESTP, ENTP …

Strangely enough, it’s not necessarily related to my interactions with a type in real life. In person, I can find common ground with most personality types depending on the individual person and the circumstances of our meeting. So when I talk about my favorite personality types, it requires an addendum that I am friends with and like people of all types (for example, my best-friend-who’s-not-a-relative doesn’t fit any of the types I listed above).

Still, there’s something about certain personality types that is irresistibly intriguing. I know several ENFJs, and the friendship and genuine communication that can exist between them and INFJs is truly amazing. I love talking with INTPs and INTJs because their minds are so incredibly keen and they challenge me to really think deeply about things. And then there’s the ENTPs ❀

ENTP Type

David Keirsey, and many other type psychologists, describe the ENTP personality type as the “soulmate” for INFJs. Of course, type compatibility in relationships is much more complicated than that, but I can definitely see why. At least, I think I can. I haven’t actually met a self-confirmed ENTP in real life. I know a guy who is either ENTP or ENFP, and knew someone I think was ENTP. Other than that, my interactions with them have all been online. Although, if fictional character’s count, we all know some that are (probably) ENTP:

(note: there are female ENTPs, just as there are male INFJs. They’re just more rare, and hence harder to find.)

ENTPs are characterized by high energy, “compelling enthusiasm,” independence, their pursuit of possibility, a constant string of projects that command their attention, and being “startlingly clever” (Isabel Myers, Gifts Differing p.106-108). There’s individual variation within all types, and Isabel Myer specifically says that

“Extroverted intuitives are hard to describe because of their infinite variety. Their interest, enthusiasm, and energy pour suddenly into unforeseeable channels like a flash flood, sweeping everything along, overwhelming all obstacles, carving out a path which others will follow long after the force that made it has flowed on into other things ” (Gifts Differing, p.106).

INFJs and ENTPs

Maybe what Myers talks about in the above quote is one reason INFJ’s like ENTPs so much. We have plenty of ideas, but struggle with moving them into the real world. We want to make big contributions, but we have trouble putting ourselves out there. We want to pour ourselves into people, but have limited energy for social interactions. So the idea of partnering with someone who specializes in active idea exploration in a big way is very attractive. Please tell me I’m not the only INFJ who has thought it would be wonderful to be the Pepper Pots to someone’s Tony Stark? (note: I’m not typing Pepper as an INFJ, just using it as an example.)

Some INFJ Thoughts on ENTPs | marissabaker.wordpress.comLooking closer at the two types, we see similarities in their function stacks that also helps explain the compatibility:

  • INFJ: Introverted Intuition, Extroverted Feeling, Introverted Thinking, Extroverted Sensing
  • ENTP: Extroverted Intuition, Introverted Thinking, Extroverted Feeling, Introverted Sensing

Both types lead with Intuition, but use that function in different ways. Intuition is a perceiving process, which has to do with how we take in and process new information. It’s close enough for the two types to understand each other, but different enough to compliment instead of overlap.

The two middle functions for both types are the same, just in a different order. Thinking and Feeling are both judging processes, which means they affect how we make decisions and what we believe the world “should” look like. INFJs and ENTPs approach this in a way that is easy for the other type to understand, but they are strong in different areas.

Their inferior functions are both sensing, but one is extroverted and one introverted. Our inferior functions typically show up when we’re stressed, so having different inferior functions means that different things stress these two types out. That can be really useful if you want someone who can help you out of stress instead of getting pulled in with you. It’s also important that they’re not exact opposites, since types who use intuition as their inferior function can get stressed-out by dominant intuitives (e.g. an ISFJ who is stressed by change might find it uncomfortable to spend much time with an ENTP).

What about you? anyone else want to confess they have favorite personality types? πŸ™‚

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22 thoughts on “Some INFJ Thoughts on ENTPs

  1. We tend to idealize our inferior function and romanticize it, which means we’re often drawn to types that display that function in perfect formation — meaning, I’m fascinated with ENTPs. The 11th Doctor is the biggest ENTP ever. I adore him. Richard Castle is another one. Pete and Claudia from Warehouse 13 are both ENTPs. Fred from Angel. Etc. The pursuit of ideas, above all else. Novelty. Detachment from the environment apart from in the realm of the abstract. My inferior Ne loves a good Ne-dom. It’s an explosion of pure, unfettered, uninhibited ideas.

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    • Love 11 and Castle ❀ Keep meaning to watch Warehouse 13 …

      Yeah — there's definitely something attractive about our opposite. I think my inferior Se is why I'm also drawn to ESTPs.

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  2. I just found out the other day that my fiance is ENTP, and I am an INFJ. Although I understand that there are many other situations which take part in compatibility, I now fully understand how it is that my fiance and I have always clicked. We differ in many ways, but our core values and beliefs are very similar, which I attribute to what you were saying about some functions differing but some shadow the other. This is exactly how it is with us together.

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  3. ENTP 7w8. But maybe a bit nicer than most such? Hopefully.

    My 2nd wife was an ENFJ. We were together thirteen years. It was a good match, until it just didn’t work anymore. It appears I was one letter off. What you say makes a lot of sense. All of my closest people have been introverts or ENFJ’s. ENFJ’s are the only other E’s I get along with consistently well.

    3rd wife? INFJ. You’ve sold me on the type.

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    • Interesting that two E’s were paired together. That can sometimes cause conflict, but it looks like you made it work for awhile. Yes, I too like ENFJs. They can be hard to type due to their complex nature, from what I’ve read online and from personal experience. BTW, full disclosure: I am one.

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  4. I am ENTP, and I totally identify with Ray Palmer and Felicity Smoak on Arrow! One of my favorite lines from Oliver Queen about the two of them was when he said, “You know it’s possible you two are related.” And also Tony Stark. ENTPs are the type of people to build a super suit that can fly because others say it can’t be done, and then just get in the thing to test it themselves. And save the world with awesome tech and awesome quips. πŸ™‚

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  5. This post is really great. I’m an INFJ male, and I agree that men of my type and ENTP women are rare. Haven’t met an ENTP girl yet, but I feel like this post would ring true for me if I did πŸ™‚

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  6. Hey Girl INFJs,

    ENTP male with a lifelong INFJ male-bff, a major college years INFJ girlfriend and now an INFJ wife. The most useful thing I can say is that from the begining I knew that there was “that different” thing that I thought was unqiue to my guy-BFF but somehow — very rarely — saw in love intrests too. For years, I chuclked it off to over active Ne attaching to a formative years pattern. There was a point though when I realized: what the [edited] am I doing with my life. Everything else is evanscent bullshit compared to this. Then I set about to settle for “that thing” and found my current wife within 7 months. 11 years later we have, two sons, few (non-fleeting) regrets.

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  7. I am a female ENTP πŸ™‚ interesting that we are supposed to be more rare than male ENTPs. I know a lot of female INFJs, and a guy I think may be an ENTP, but I haven’t interacted with many other ENTPs.

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  8. As an ENFJ male, I am friends with INTJ and ENTP types. My older buddy from my last job is an ENTP and can be rather blunt at times. Very good with workplace politics and organizational structure info. He has had a number of professional and management roles during his career and has served as a mentor to me. I have learned a lot about the business world through him. Very visionary guy who can see through the nonsense of SJ bureaucrats at work. I am amazed at how accurately he predicted some of the changes we experienced. I was recently interviewed by an ENTP last week and his questions were definitely spot on for his type. Typically, interviewers use the same routine behavioral SJ written questions that are somewhat predictable, but this guy truly thought “outside the box” and caught me off guard. Once I realized his mindset, I became more alert for his unusual questioning techniques.

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  9. I’m an ENTP, and my best friend since fourth grade is an INFJ. Yet at the same time, it’s become harder to be friends with them because they NEVER share their feelings. I can tell they have them, unlike me, but they just refuse to ever accept the fact that they do (or at least admit it). My best friend recently is actually an ENFP.

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    • We INFJs can be really private with our feelings, but an INFJ not admitting they have feelings at all (especially to a good friend) seems odd. Makes me think something else might be going on, though I couldn’t speculate what.

      ENFPs are so much fun! I enjoy being around them and sharing ideas with them (though sometimes they exhaust me. Where do they get all that energy?!).

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  10. Love Love Love my ENTP husband! (Im INFJ) we were highschool sweethearts and have been together 15yrs now. I knew him as a friend first and just thought he was really funny, but I fell in love when I learned how deep his thinking truly was and how full of wisdom he was; a side of himself that he never shared with anyone except me. To this day, no one understands me like he does…like we have a psychic connection.β™‘

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  11. I am a INFJ husband to my ENTP wife of almost 20 years and I will say out of all the people I have known she is the best person I could have married. I am constantly and fleetingly attracted to free spirited artist types or other “spiritual” types like myself but I can easily see why any relationship with those people would be doomed to failure. My wife just complements me so well and when we get each other it is great.

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  12. This is joining the party a little late, but wondering if things have changed for you Marissa? Have you met any ENTP chicks or found a great ENTP guy yet? I’m an ENTP, just out of a relationship with an INTJ. This is a great combo. in fact, the best I’ve experienced so far. But, there were some things that made the relationship pretty difficult too, such as his anxiety levels. Anyway, a guy friend of mine is an INFJ, and I find him very interesting and somewhat mysterious. He is also coming off of a recent breakup. I would be into dating him, but he’s about 5 years younger (although, it doesn’t feel that way when we’re together), and I don’t think it would be a good idea in case he is the type to rebound. But, I also don’t want to miss the opportunity, if there is one. Haha! I wonder if you have any thoughts or intuition about this?

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